You Are Not Alone

So you’ve found us, another support blog… But maybe we’re a bit different… Of course we’re here for anyone dealing with any form of self injury and surrounding issues… But we’re not just your standard harm, relapse, support and recovery blog… We’re also here to do something thats not seen all that often… To help those who help others in your life, to understand what they’re going through and how to cope with the concern as and the secondary effects, whether you’ve been there yourself, are there now, or are simply dealing with self harm second hand through a loved one

We’re here to offer our support and our story, as a couple who regularly deal with self harm and many related issues, as a victim, and a supporter that have never been more strong as a unit, for we go through it all together, and to share our strength to help you, whether you’re in the same situation, or are purely a victim to self injury

You can message us about anything at all, if you need someone to talk to, help with recovery or quitting, if you need help understanding what a loved one may be going through, or simply any form of support, we’re here, all asks will be replied to and will be posted publicly, if you wish for private response, please specify, if, for whatever reason, you wish to contact one of us totally privately, we don’t give out personal information but you can find our personals this is him and this is her

If you wish to submit any related content or you can’t fit your message in an ask box, use the submit box, feel free to share any successes and recovery stories too, we’re here to support you right through your journey Here you’ll find advice, help, articles and support from the point of view of a victim of self harm, and from a supporter of said, we aim to provide you content from both sides, be it relating to how to deal with self harm, how to recover, what to do if triggered, relapses, how to support a victim and deal with the effects if someone you care for is suffering as well as a lot more

We aim to provide you with any support you need relating to self injury in any way, shape or form, no matter how great or small the problem, it always matters to us, there’s no such thing as “trivial” we’re here for anything, as well as this we hope to bring you stories of recovery through submission, as well as related content, support, tips and advise and elements from our own story, and please feel free to ask us about it or about how we’ve dealt with anything so we can help you

We do not promote or glorify injury in any way, and we are a safe blog, we aim not to trigger, we don’t judge in any way and regardless of age, gender (binary or not) orientation, colour, beliefs.. anything at all.. we’re here for anyone, about anything…. Remember… You’re not alone

Who we are

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I strongly live by the nature that your past shapes you, but does not define you, no matter what you’ve done, been through, or others have done to you in your life, don’t have regret, just take it as something that’s shaped you as you are now, I also believe that, although I often lose sight of it, my illnesses and injury don’t define me, they’re simply a part of who I am, that said, they’re the part of me you’ll see within this post, and blog, but they’re not all of me. Without going into too much detail of all I’ve been through, I’ve basically suffered with mental illness and disorders throughout my life, with other factors along the way making it worse and worse and not aided by the fact I have severely over protective parents who really don’t understand what I’m going through, nor the concept of self harm. I’ve been self injurious pretty much my whole life, though I didn’t turn to tools until some point between 11-13 though I forget exactly when, and it’s gone on in various forms since then. I’ve had times where I’ve been in total recovery, and times where I could cope without harming hourly, if not more, so I’ve really seen it all. I have a whole host of triggers as well as general addiction and reliance on self harm which isn’t aided by the fact I suffer with major depression, anxiety, ocd, passive bpd, disassociation, ptsd, supposed EDs, spells of mania and psychosis, just to name a few… I’ve done many dark and regrettable things when it comes to injury, or how my head works, and I’ve been at deaths door, or attempted suicide on various occasions, and I still have tendencies, thoughts and attempts to this day. However, these days I’m trying so much harder to hold on, I’ve been through the whole medical process in terms of my illnesses and injury, and the whole situation with my parents, so if you’re ever facing anything like that, I’m more than willing to do all I can to help you. But yes, there’s a reason I was inspired to fight even harder, and that reason is a certain person who’s saved me from verge of death, as well as from many things including myself on a regular basis, the reason I’m alive, and fighting, and here to help you all, no, I’m still not better, in fact I’m slowly getting worse, but for once, I’m not alone, and I need you all to know, neither are you, and that reason? That would be the co-owner of this blog, my best friend, and love of my life, who is worth more to me than any words could ever say, and for whom I could never express enough thanks to, and for…. so I think it’s probably about time we introduced you to Robert…

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With that introduction from my wonderful girlfriend, Erica, I shall fill you in on a bit about myself. I’m currently studying to become a Psychologist and it’s my passion to help people with any and every issue they may be facing. I love to make people happy, and that coupled with all I’ve learned from my day to day work with Erica and the illnesses she suffers through is what spurred me to start this blog. I’ve been through my fair share of depression and suicidal thoughts, though I never attempted nor harmed myself in any lasting way. Every one visiting this blog is a beautiful, wonderful human being who deserves all the happiness they can receive from the world and myself and Erica look to help each and every one of you to achieve that happiness, beat your illnesses / struggles / addictions, and see what the world truly has to offer you.

Why are we doing this